12 Jan 6 Tips for Coping and Recovering from Loss
Dealing with grief and loss is different for everyone. There are various factors which play its role in how you grieve- this includes your beliefs, upbringing, your age and your mental health.
There are 5 stages in the grief process which happens in no particular order but being aware of them happening may help you to know that what you are experiencing is normal and it will pass. The 5 stages include denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance.
The process of healing has no definite time frame, it’s different for everyone.
Coping skills you can utilize throughout this time includes but is not limited to the following:
Talk about it— Having a friend, family, professional you can talk to about your emotions helps you to process and heal.
Feel the funk— Allow yourself to feel sad. Not every day is going to be a day filled with sadness but when it comes allow yourself to feel it but commit to yourself that you will not stay there.
Healthy distractions— Participate in your daily routines, participate in activities which you might want to brush off, do things to take your mind off the here and now.
Self-care— Eat healthy, sleep regularly, take care of yourself. Do at least one thing for yourself each week that you enjoy. This can be eating your favorite food, exercising, going for a walk, taking a long bath, watching your favorite show/movie, reading a book, etc.
Avoid ‘numbing’ the pain— Alcohol, drugs, self-medicating, maladaptive behaviors, each of these will hurt you not help you, you will feel worse once it subsides.
Attitude of Gratitude— Focus on the positive! Find the good in each day and what’s present in your life currently. As you focus more and more on the positive/ the blessings you do have/ the moments you were blessed with/ the lessons you have learned your perspective will be enlightened.
Seek professional help if:
- You don’t feel able to cope with overwhelming emotions or daily life.
- The intense emotions aren’t subsiding.
- You’re not sleeping.
- You are sleeping majority of the day.
- Your appetite has changed.
- You aren’t interested in activities you once were.
- You worry often
- You are having racing thoughts.
- You are having panic attacks
- You have problems focusing.
- Your relationships are suffering.
- You’re having sexual problems.
By: Chautè Thompson, LMHC
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